Consent Conversation Starters for Tulane Parents:
A compilation of articles, interviews and videos on consent & rape culture
Consent is like a Cup of Tea: This short video demonstrates the elements of consent by comparing it to making someone a cup of tea. In two minutes, you WILL understand consent!
Let's Talk About Consent: How about a hipper version of a consent education video made by NYU students? Inclusive and instructive, your child might really appreciate the message from their peers.
The Big Bang Theory, ‘The Opening Night Excitation’: When Sheldon and Amy have sex for the first time, they demonstrate how to communicate and care for your partner—and Sheldon’s commitment to obtaining consent. (Note: contracts are not required.)
When Talking About Sexual Consent, YA Books Can Be A Parent's Best Friend: When it comes to discussing consent with your kids, a good young adult novel can be a fantastic way in for a parent to talk about consent—and non-consent—for your children and giving you a starting point for conversation. Speak is a particularly notable novel about sexual assault (and has a movie that you can watch with your child, too), and John Green's novels The Fault in Our Stars and Turtles All the Way Down both have great examples of consent (in the latter, in something as small as being comfortable with kissing).
When Pop Culture Sells Dangerous Myths About Romance: Entertainment glorifying or excusing predatory male behavior is everywhere—from songs about “blurred lines” to TV shows where rapists marry their victims.
5 Amazing Love Scenes Where Pop Culture Got Consent Exactly Right: But here are a few great examples--including family friendly and fabulous Frozen and Oz and Willow's first time on Buffy (sigh! Who didn't love Oz!).
30 Healthy Ways To Teach Kids About Consent: Adapted from The Good Men project, here are thirty developmentally appropriate ways to teach toddlers to teens about how to ask for consent. Create a future with less rape and sexual assault by teaching children about having empathy for others and understanding consent.
What We Need to Learn from the Aziz Ansari Clusterf--k: In a blog post that went viral, actress Jameela Jamil (The Good Place) argues that consent isn't the gold standard, it's merely the basic foundation. The gold standard is "building on that with fun, mutual passion, equal arousal, interest and enthusiasm."
The Game Is Rigged. Why sex that’s consensual can still be bad. And why we’re not talking about it: This is the flip side of the article above, that the standard of mere consent does such a disservice to girls. (And if you want to read a full book on this topic, pick up Lisa Wade's fantastic 'American Hookup.' Our students say that it absolutely speaks to their experience.)
'Girls & Sex' And The Importance Of Talking To Young Women About Pleasure: Here's the solution--Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex, talks about the “mixed messages” that girls are receiving about sexuality and how parents can better communicate with their daughters about having healthy and positive sexual experiences.
Understanding and Addressing “Rape Culture”
Man Up: Detroit Lions linebacker Deandre Levy writes about how the pressure to “be a man” negatively impacts the way men view women—and how that feeds into sexual violence.
Asking for It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture--and What We Can Do about It: The 2016 first year Reading Project book here at Tulane, this book will walk you through why society has normalized sexual violence against women and how we all have to work together to create a safer community.
The Amy Schumer Show, ‘A Very Realistic Military Game’: In a sketch from the popular comedy show, Amy discovers that her boyfriend's war game unfolds very differently when the player chooses a female character.
Your Reckoning. And Mine: As stories about abuse, assault, and complicity come flooding out, how do we think about the culprits in our lives? Including, sometimes, ourselves.
The Stanford Rape Victim’s Letter: Brock Turner, a Stanford student, was convicted of raping an unconscious girl; she wrote this letter and read it at his sentencing hearing; since then, it has been shared worldwide.
Anatomy of Doubt (This American Life Podcast): The story of what happened after 18 year old Marie reported being raped--and the doubt she faced from law enforcement and from the ones she loved.
The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons: Most conversations around sexual assault focus on telling girls how to protect themselves from danger. This sexual health educator urges us to talk to our sons about sexual assault, too, to directly address this problem.
Here’s Why Conversations About Campus Sexual Assault Need to Include LGBT People: While our conversations about sexual violence usually assume that a victim is a straight female, this article/video is a reminder that rape does not discriminate against gender or sexual identities.
Looking for more resources? Contact Tulane’s Title IX Coordinator, Meredith Smith, at email@example.com!